by Marcia Sirota, MD:
Friendship, like many other things in life, can have an expiration date.
There are some friends who stay with you for your whole life but there are also many friends who come into your life and are part of it only for a certain amount of time.
Through our lives, we grow and change. Ideally, our friends will grow and change with us. As we mature, we develop different attitudes and different needs.
Some things that we considered necessities in the past become things we can do without in the present; some behaviors political views or religious affiliations that we could accept before become deal breakers, today.
We realize that some people act in ways which didn’t bother us so much when we were younger, but now these behaviors have become intolerable.
As we grow stronger, healthier and more conscious, we begin to see all of our relationships much more clearly. We identify the friends whose values we once shared but who we see today as just too different from us.
Sometimes we simply grow apart as we make life choices which put us in different social or economic circles. Some people choose a more traditional lifestyle while others opt for a bohemian way of life.
We can also get into conflicts or misunderstandings with an old friend. As we evolve and change, they might still be attached to seeing us a certain way. If they’re unable to accept the new, more improved version of us, the friendship can’t be sustained.
See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.
Refuse to be taken hostage by your own mind. Surround yourself with “can do” energy, with people and stories of people, who are actively seeking to create, imagine, reinvent, and change their lives. Develop a curiosity about your own limits.
Expand your mindset by reading something everyday that stretches your imagination and strengthens your spirit. Move forward, go around, look ahead and stretch above your present circumstances. They do not define you or own you. You’ve gotta be HUNGRY to create the next extraordinary version of you and to live your best life ever! You have GREATNESS within you!