Why You Should Embrace More


The Unseen Effects Of Embracing Someone by Frank M. Wanderer Ph.D.

Intimacy is one of the most elementary human needs. Its wealth nourishes the human soul. One of the most beautiful expressions of intimacy is when two people embrace each other. This wonderful human gesture — the hug — is a store of great secrets and benefits. So what are the secrets of the embrace? Embrace has a smaller and a greater secret…

The small secret of the embrace is that it has a wide range of positive physiological and psychological effects. For instance, it increases trust and confidence, it reduces anxiety, fear, and pain, boosts the immune system, and alleviates the aftermath of stress.

An embrace means closeness and warmth in human relations, it is the most intimate expression of love. An embrace reinforces connections, it affords a sense of safety and improves the intensity of two people’s sense of belonging together. An embrace provides us with the exceptionally intensive sense of belonging to another person — and it is not possible to generate the same emotion in any other way. An embrace is also a form of communication, and with it, we may express things that we are not able to put into words.

In essence, embracing tranquilizes the soul and, for a few moments, is able to make us forget the things and problems around us, which triggers numerous physical and psychological benefits.

Embracing as a Gateway~
In an embrace, our whole body is permeated by currents of energy, giving us a fine, pleasant feeling. This energy is love. In the embrace, in this current of love, a gateway opens up. Through the gate, some of our original state of existence shines through. This is the great secret of the embrace.

Our original state of existence is a state in which Consciousness is not identified with forms and shapes. This state of the Consciousness is Life itself, the state of Oneness, and empty space filled up completely with the vibrating energy of love that encompasses everything else.

In our present state of Consciousness we identify with the forms and shapes of this reality, and thus we are separated from Oneness. In that state, most of us have forgotten our original state of existence. Nowadays, the majority of people consider the Ego, that small, detached Self, as reality. That is the consequence of our identification with the world of forms and shapes.

An embrace is, however, able to dissolve our identification with those forms and shapes — we open up for the other person, we become receptive, and the Ego disappears. The stream of our thoughts stops, and only the present moment exists for us. Then, at that moment of alertness, we receive something from the immense, universal current of love coming to us through the gate that has opened up for us. Consciousness may wake up to its own existence, and it may escape from the spell of identification with the forms and shapes.

That is why it is useful to make use of the gateway opened up by an embrace as frequently as possible in our daily life.


Status Symbol

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“A well built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it, no money can buy it, you cannot borrow it, you cannot inherit it, you cannot steal it. You cannot hold onto it without constant work. It shows discipline, it shows self-respect, it shows patience, work ethic and passion.”

Arnold Schwarzenegger

Abe Doings Daily

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Abraham-Hicks recommends we all do the following:

  • meditate for 15 minutes
  • go outside everyday, no matter the weather; move around in it in appreciation of the planet; look up and around and find things to acknowledge and talk about it out loud: “you are my favorite stone on the pathway, you are my favorite flower not in bloom”
  • Write on positive aspects book; 5 subjects and write a page of positive aspects about each them
  • Look upward/outward (outside or by window) and acknowledge the universal forces that are focused right at me, call it by name, and say “I acknowledge that I am the object of your positive attention and I’m appreciating your continual gaze on behalf of my well being. And today, no matter where I am, no matter where I’m going, no matter what I’m doing, no matter who I’m doing it with, I will be in conscious awareness that you too are there with me. Appreciating me, supporting me, assisting me, acknowledging me, inspiring me, guiding me, having fun with me, helping me, aware of me, loving me, showing me, inspiring me, guiding me, uplifting me . . .”

Get into an endless loop of that acknowledgement and watch what begins to happen in your life as soon as this day begins.

Your Vortex is filled to the brim with specific requests that you have put there and that you are deserving of realization of, and it is time for those realizations to be flooding into your experience at a rate that will astonish those who surround you, it’s time for you to remember what you have put there and to bring it forward active into your today experience.

Are You Capable of Love?

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Love is the capacity to take care, to protect, to nourish. If you are not capable of generating that kind of energy toward yourself — if you are not capable of taking care of yourself, of nourishing yourself, of protecting yourself — it is very difficult to take care of another person. In the Buddhist teaching, it’s clear that to love oneself is the foundation of the love of other people. Love is a practice. Love is truly a practice.

My 3 Fave Instagrammers

For 2017, here are my 3 most favourite people on Instagram in alphabetical order. They are my friends so please show them some love if you’re on IG! Also, visit me at my channel @xinageco for pics of food, tennis, cats and awesome Vancouver sights.

THANK YOU and wishing you a Happy New Year’s Eve 🙂



Anna Tang is a 13-year old tennis player currently sponsored by Wilson Tennis. Here she is on Christmas day at the tennis courts! Love the Santa hat and her training ethic. She usually has giveaways on her channel so be sure to follow her if you’re a passionate tennis player like me. 



Maleah Quan is my permanent WCW [woman crush Wednesday], foodie friend, and the poster girl for Asian-American hotness! She’s smart, stylish, and strong. Check out her IG and see her daily positivity posts. 



Roman Ansari is a photojournalist I had the pleasure of meeting this summer when he was on a NatGeo assignment in Vancouver, BC [where I’m from]. He does all kinds of photography and I’m a really big fan of his nude series! Being a naturist, I’m fascinated by his ability to capture the female form in the most sensual manner possible! If there’s anyone I’d let me shoot nude, you bet it would be Roman!

Relishing My Pastries

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Pastries from Aroma Bakery in Burnaby

Most of you know, I do intermittent fasting which means I skip breakfast so that I can do fasted workouts. I don’t always eat pastries, but when I do, I eat it only for lunch. This pic shows what I had for lunch earlier this week. From left to right, you are looking at a cream-filled dark chocolate eclair, a napoleon which is a Russian-style mille feuille, and 2 cream puffs!

I woke up the next day still f*cking sexy. It’s possible to eat what you want when you eat clean 80-90% of the time, workout smart and keep yourself in vibrational alignment with things, people, circumstances that keep you feeling good.

#HappyFriday #pastries #SOML