Purr-fect Partner?

“If you really want to find the perfect human relationship,
look for someone who is cat-like,
likes to be alone and happy to be with you,
happy when you are there and happy when you’re not there,
licks your face occasionally, 
will take all the scratching and petting you are willing to offer,
feels secure,
sleeps when it feels like it,
hunts when he feels like it,
basks often.”

Dobby, my Ragamuffin cat

“Are you a Cat Person?

Meditates regularly,
never feels guilty, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever!
Does emphatically what he wants to do,
is always glad to see you,
never cares when you leave…

Seems like the perfect partner.”

Source: Abraham-Hicks 

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Why You Should Embrace More

The Unseen Effects Of Embracing Someone by Frank M. Wanderer Ph.D.

Intimacy is one of the most elementary human needs. Its wealth nourishes the human soul. One of the most beautiful expressions of intimacy is when two people embrace each other. This wonderful human gesture — the hug — is a store of great secrets and benefits. So what are the secrets of the embrace? Embrace has a smaller and a greater secret…

The small secret of the embrace is that it has a wide range of positive physiological and psychological effects. For instance, it increases trust and confidence, it reduces anxiety, fear, and pain, boosts the immune system, and alleviates the aftermath of stress.

An embrace means closeness and warmth in human relations, it is the most intimate expression of love. An embrace reinforces connections, it affords a sense of safety and improves the intensity of two people’s sense of belonging together. An embrace provides us with the exceptionally intensive sense of belonging to another person — and it is not possible to generate the same emotion in any other way. An embrace is also a form of communication, and with it, we may express things that we are not able to put into words.

In essence, embracing tranquilizes the soul and, for a few moments, is able to make us forget the things and problems around us, which triggers numerous physical and psychological benefits.

Embracing as a Gateway~
In an embrace, our whole body is permeated by currents of energy, giving us a fine, pleasant feeling. This energy is love. In the embrace, in this current of love, a gateway opens up. Through the gate, some of our original state of existence shines through. This is the great secret of the embrace.

Our original state of existence is a state in which Consciousness is not identified with forms and shapes. This state of the Consciousness is Life itself, the state of Oneness, and empty space filled up completely with the vibrating energy of love that encompasses everything else.

In our present state of Consciousness we identify with the forms and shapes of this reality, and thus we are separated from Oneness. In that state, most of us have forgotten our original state of existence. Nowadays, the majority of people consider the Ego, that small, detached Self, as reality. That is the consequence of our identification with the world of forms and shapes.

An embrace is, however, able to dissolve our identification with those forms and shapes — we open up for the other person, we become receptive, and the Ego disappears. The stream of our thoughts stops, and only the present moment exists for us. Then, at that moment of alertness, we receive something from the immense, universal current of love coming to us through the gate that has opened up for us. Consciousness may wake up to its own existence, and it may escape from the spell of identification with the forms and shapes.

That is why it is useful to make use of the gateway opened up by an embrace as frequently as possible in our daily life.

How-to: Appreciate You

Happy Relationships by Osho

First become alone. First start enjoying yourself. First love yourself. First become so authentically happy that if nobody comes it doesn’t matter; you are full, overflowing. If nobody knocks at your door it is perfectly okay — you are not missing. You are not waiting for somebody to come and knock at the door. You are at home. If somebody comes, good, beautiful. If nobody comes, that too is beautiful and good.

Then move into relationship. Now you move like a master, not like a beggar. Now you move like an emperor, not like a beggar. And the person who has lived in his aloneness will always be attracted to another person who is also living his aloneness beautifully, because the same attracts the same. When two masters meet — masters of their being, of their aloneness — happiness is not just added, it is multiplied. It becomes a tremendous phenomenon of celebration. And they don’t exploit, they share. They don’t use each other. Rather, on the contrary, they both become one and enjoy the existence that surrounds them.

 

Status Symbol

“A well built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it, no money can buy it, you cannot borrow it, you cannot inherit it, you cannot steal it. You cannot hold onto it without constant work. It shows discipline, it shows self-respect, it shows patience, work ethic and passion.”

Arnold Schwarzenegger

Secure Love

The best gift you can give someone is the permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy, to feel enough.

This is everything. We need to create secure and loving attachments. Most of us create and exist in relationships where we feel criticized, attacked and not safe to be ourselves. And often the source of this is not the specific relationship, but how we were interacted with as kids and growing up.

When we begin to look at “why” we get angry and defensive we can start to understand what our wounds are… and it is often the same one coming out in different ways with different people and situations. Because behind every emotional outburst is an unmet need… And this need correlates to a fear; a fear of not being enough, fear of rejection, fear of being left.

This is why we must learn to cultivate an understanding of our emotional states…(meditation is such an important skill!) because in the fight we can begin to observe ourselves and why we’re feeling how we’re feeling. Look, growth and understanding these parts of ourselves is paramount to building great attachments that are healthy… where you feel like you can be you and your partner feels like they can be themselves too.

Until then we’re really just wearing blinders in our relationships and we’ll never know how to fully let someone love us… and our partner won’t feel like their wounds are being understood as well.

Once we get to this state of observation in our relationships we can cultivate much deeper relationships because finally WE are the ones showing up… not our representatives. And, in safe and secure attachments we feel like we can unfold and be ourselves. That’s where the f*cking money is.

Mark Groves

Cosplay Crissy

All 5 pictures above are digital camera selfies enhanced in Adobe Photoshop to saturate paint colours, enhance contrast and lighting, and finish the anime character look. You may guess who I’m cosplaying but if you’re unsure, here is the key:

1. Rinoa Heartilly from FF8
2. Kushina Uzumaki from Naruto Shippuuden
3. BloodRayne from the video game
4. Kagami Hiiragi from Lucky Star
5. Russian doll